Hebrews 12:1-2
"...let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfector of our faith..."

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

A Friendship Born Out of Death

Our friendship started in heaven....literally.  It was born out of the deaths of our children, my Brooke and her 11 month baby boy, Kael.  I'm not sure of the exact date when Dawn and I met but on January 7, 2011, my heart grieved for this young mother.  I did not "know" her that day, but I knew her pain.  I knew the pain that gripped her heart to where it felt as if it would never heal.  I knew the loss her arms felt to never again hold her son on this earth.  I knew of the tears she wept to the depth that she could not breathe.  I knew of the prayers she cried to the Almighty God.  I knew.  

I had been praying that God would show me His timing in meeting Dawn.  I wanted to respect her grieving process.  I didn't know if hearing from me would be of any encouragement anyway.  I mean, it had been 17 years since Brooke had passed away.  So, I continued to pray that God would orchestrate our meeting IF it was HIS will.  Several weeks after Kael's funeral, a mutual friend at church approached me and asked if I would possibly consider calling Dawn.  God was clearly directing and I knew that we needed to meet.

I called her and we arranged a meeting time.

When I opened my front door and saw her, my heart hurt deeply for her.  I thought of how young she was to have such heartache.  I hugged her with not only my arms but my heart...and we cried.  Our friendship was instant.  We sat and talked and shed tears for hours.  I tried to be strong because I felt like that's what I was "suppose to do".  What I did not realize was that as Dawn shared, I began to relive the deepest hurts of losing a child.  As she spoke, I was able to say, "I remember that...I felt that too....I know what you're going through."  I was hurting for her...and I was hurting for me once again.  Our time was very precious.  After Dawn left, my tears flowed.  Our meeting had left me emotionally drained yet I felt so spiritually filled in this new friendship.  Those who knew that I was meeting with Dawn thought that I would be able to encourage HER but the opposite was so true.  This young woman encouraged ME.  She permeated Christ.  

Our friendship continues today.  I feel like I probably benefit from it more than her.  See, Dawn is a godly woman who is daily reflecting Christ.  She believes God and takes Him at His Word.  She trusts even when her days are hard.  Her daily walk takes her closer to the feet of her Savior.  She is a reflection of His love and I am honored to call her my friend.

On November 10, Dawn and her husband, Derek, welcomed their third child (big brother, Kyler, is 4 yrs. old) into their lives--a beautiful baby girl.  Her name is Kella Faith.  Kella means "Warrior".  Her name exemplifies the life of faith her parents lived in the darkest part of their lives and continue to live today.  They have fought the fight.  They have stood firm in their faith.  The last part of Isaiah 7:9 reads,

"...If you do not stand firm in your faith,
you will not stand at all."

I Corinthians 16:13 says

"Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith;
be men of courage; be strong."

I know that Dawn's prayer for her precious daughter is that she will come to know Christ as her personal Savior at a young age and that little Kella will be a warrior for Christ in her faith. 

Joy and grief wrap around this family simultaneously in this holiday season.  Joy in the birth of their daughter and grief in the loss of their son.  Emotions will be up and down...but one thing is constant....one thing is for sure....God is good and His love endures forever...blessed be the name of the Lord.


  1. Wow, Lisa . . . thanks so much for sharing this. I have tears in my eyes. I love how God works, even in the midst of deep pain.

  2. I love how God used you to meet Dawn so personally in her great need for someone to understand her heart fully in this tragedy. It truly is amazing how God orchestrates friendships....He knows before we know.